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Changing others is neurotic, changing yourself is God

When I was young, if someone asked me what do you want to do in the future. My answer was - I want to change the world. I am not joking, I really replied to adults with this exact answer. Now I am a mother of two children, and in my midlife, I slowly understand it is impossible to change others, and I have been wasting too much time on others, and I would like to pay more attention to myself. Especially withholding the expectation that one day, this person would do “this” for me (which had never happened). At times, I realized the only thing I can do is to change myself.

The other day I read this from the internet.

“When I was a young man, I wanted to change the world.

I found it was difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation.

When I found I couldn’t change the nation, I began to focus on my town. I couldn’t change the town and as an older man, I tried to change my family.

Now, as an old man, I realize the only thing I can change is myself, and suddenly I realize that if long ago I had changed myself, I could have made an impact on my family. My family and I could have made an impact on our town. Their impact could have changed the nation and I could indeed have changed the world.”

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